SUCCESSFULLY SET LIMITS
IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
in 60 Days
AND GET YOUR HOPES AND DREAMS BACK ON TRACK
(Without feeling like a self-absorbed control freak)
If you’re a leader, entrepreneur, or educator who is striving to achieve your goals while maintaining a healthy-self, then you probably already know how important it is to set limits in your relationships.
So I can spear you the spiel.
No need to be a broken record and convince you of something that’s already been drilled deep into your leadership brain.
After all, you probably already KNOW that ALL relationships need limits to be healthy. Yes, ALL relationship—despite the type (spouse, partner, spiritual leader, coworker, parent, or best friend).
I am sure that you’ve heard somewhere that setting limits in relationships is a respectful and kind way to create intimacy.
You’re probably aware that relationships without limits are the breeding ground for abuse, control and manipulation.
HERE'S WHAT YOU
MIGHT NOT KNOW
Even if you’r lucky enough to be loved and respected by others, knowing how to set limits in your relationships can help you:
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CLARIFY YOUR THOUGHTS & FEELINGS
Getting clear about what you think and how you feel will help you accept things you cannot control so that you no longer sit and replay your day when you should be relaxing or sleeping.
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ENHANCE YOUR COMMUNICATION SKILLS
Learning and practicing exactly what to say and do is a game-changer for you and the people you lead! In home, at work, and in the community, you will begin modeling healthy and assertive communication.
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GENERATE A CONFIDENCE BOOST
The process of setting limits will empower you to be honest with yourself and others so that you can just be yourself and cultivate bonds with people who love and accept the real you.
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BODLY BECOME A BETTER VERSION OF YOURSELF
Setting limits in your relationships frees you from being overly responsible for others so you can lose that 25 lbs, go back to school, start a business, or fill-up your passport.
EVEN THOUGH THE REASONS TO SET LIMITS IN RELATIONSHIPS ARE A COMPLETE NO-BRAINER, THE PROCESS INVOLVED IN ACTUALLY SETTING THEM IS ANYTHING BUT.
SETTING LIMITS? AWESOME.
But where the heck do I start?
Perhaps in your most courageous moments you’ve made the commitment to start.
You’ve highlighted that best selling self-help book, attended the leadership conference, and faithfully listened to every episode of the podcast.
If you’re super committed, you’ve taken things a step further by having “The Talk” with the other person. At best, the discussion was a combination of yelling and/or silence. Actually, it’s possible that you’ve had “The Talk” a few times. Things may change for a little while but before you know it, the undesirable behavior returns. You feel stuck in a vicious cycle.
But even with the best intentions, most leaders aspiring to set limits in their relationships end up abandoning the process—allowing the needs of others to remain a top priority while they are consistently overwhelmed by feelings of burn-out, betrayal, and bitterness.
Here is why most leaders abandon the process:
Without a super clear, step-by-step, self-reflective process, most leaders get completely lost.
They fall victim to the overwhelming tasks of getting clear about what they are experiencing with the other person; figuring out what they want and need; knowing how to ask for what they want; and confusion about how to respond if things don’t go so well. In addition, the guilt of saying “no” or letting go can be paralyzing.
Here is why this is irreversibly crippling.
As a busy leader, entrepreneur or educator with people to serve, services to fulfill, and maybe even a day job to get to, you literally can’t afford to deplete your emotional energy.
And the moment you feel depleted in your journey to set limits, it’s almost impossible to recover.
Therefore, setting limits in your relationships is one of the few things in your life that you NEED to get right the first time.
And to be totally honest, you are not alone. VERY FEW people out there are doing it right.
In all likelihood, your peers have failed in setting limits with others or they are doing something ineffective that nobody can emulate.
Which means…
Even if you’re late to the party, there’s still a golden opportunity for you to jump in, clean up the mess and improve your life by setting limits in relationships.
That is…if you can avoid the same deadly limit-setting mistakes that your peers are making.
MYTH 1
Self-care is selfish.
Leading others well requires a lot of time, energy, and sacrifice. Every leader has different levels of capacity and must figure out how to balance care for self and others along the way.
Do I take this call after hours? Should I finish someone else’s part of the project so that it can be done correctly? Do I ignore endure these inappropriate comments to keep the peace?
These are just some of the many questions you have to answer along the way.
Many leaders sacrifice their emotional, spiritual, and financial health in the name of doing what’s “best” for the good of the group. Truth is, in order to lead well, we must take care of ourselves. Taking care of yourself is one of the ways that you acknowledge that you are a whole person who matters, too. You are not greater than or less than those you love and serve—you are a person just like them. You matter.
Time to embrace self-care for what really is—a tool that allows us to is give others the best of us instead of what’s left of us.
Myth 2
Setting Limits is Controlling.
Let’s face it, most leaders take responsibility for moving projects and people towards a goal. Naturally, we care about what others think of us. People get comfortable with our communication and behavioral patterns. Setting limits in relationships disrupts that comfort. This can leave us with the fear of being judged or misunderstood.
Truth is, setting limits is simply something we do to assert ourselves. Assertiveness helps us communicate what we are willing and not willing to experience in relationships.
We don’t set limits to control other people, but rather as a means to simultaneously respect ourselves and others. Now THAT is a mark of good leadership.
Myth 3
If I don’t take care of “it”, things will not be ok.
Often times, we feel like all of the balls are in our court. We get consumed with making sure things are taken care of and nothing falls through the cracks.
Truth is, being overly responsible for people and things has a way of stealing our joy and peace. You are responsible for managing and controlling your own life….so are other people.
Sometimes we need to allow people and things the space that they need to fall apart so that they can come back together again in time.
Setting limits has a way of helping us to see more clearly and make the distinction between what we are responsible for and what we are not. You can learn to be okay when you realize what is truly not your responsibility, issue or problem.
Myth 4
I don’t need limits with those closest to me because I trust them.
The people closest to us are often a sense of safety and comfort. We are created for intimacy and connection.
Many times, we feel like these people know us better than we know ourselves—they know what we like, dislike, what we want and how we feel.
We’ve been taught that love has no limits. However, there is always a difference between what you think, feel, and do in comparison to another person. Setting limits helps us to safeguard our relationships by ensuring that we never lose ourselves in other people.
Myth 5
Taking care of others makes me happy.
Fixing, giving, and serving are all hallmarks of good leadership. It is natural to derive a sense of joy from helping others.
Sometimes we can take our helping behaviors too far. If we lean too far into taking care of others as a means to happiness, our sense of self and purpose can become warped. Setting limits can help us strike a balance between care for others and care of self—an important key to thriving in life and love.
Shh...I'm going to let you in on a little secret
Even though the skill of setting limits in relationship is the key to balancing care for self and others—it’s a skills that many people struggle with.
A few people will figure it out , while many others stay in a never ending cycle of frustration.
And the main reasons for this, as you’ve likely seen by now, is that while the concept of setting limits in relationships is relatively SIMPLE…
…the barriers towards towards EFFECTIVE EXECUTION are fairly complex.
But as long as you can avoid the biggest blunders that sink most leaders seeking to set limits, the path is paved for you to improve yourself and your relationships.
One that allows you to communicate with confidence, invest in your self-care, and pursue your dreams with passion.
The key ingredient to all of this is a course that provides you with a pathway to your Healthy Self.
And with your permission, I’d LOVE to show you how to begin your path.
But as long as you can avoid the biggest blunders that sink most leaders seeking to set limits, the path is paved for you to improve yourself and your relationships.
One that allows you to communicate with confidence, invest in your self-care, and pursue your dreams with passion.
THE KEY
The key ingredient to all of this is a course that provides you with a pathway to your Healthy Self. And with your permission, Iād LOVE to show you how to begin your path.
INTRODUCTING
Here's How We'll Help You Get There:
I take everything I’ve learned from eight years of education in counseling and psychology, 20 years of of experience as a professional counselor, clergy, and educator, and 1,000s of people successfully coached through setting limits in all types of relationship dynamics to include dating, marriage, parent-child, spiritual, employment, mentorship, and business and developed it into a comprehensive, step-by-step, transformation program that not only teaches you the high level theory, but the actual IMPLEMENTATION of how do the same in your own life.
HEALTHY SELF 101 ISN’T JUST ABOUT EDUCATION—IT’S ABOUT TRANSFORMATION.
HEALTHY SELF 101
Is the first program of it’s kind that…
GIVES YOU PERMISSION TO MAKE YOURSELF A PRIORITY.
You are responsible for yourself and to others. The program help you learn how to take yourself seriously and release yourself from the “guilt” of taking care of yourself.
TEACHES YOU HOW TO ASSERT YOURSELF
Ditch passive or aggressive communication styles that increase frustration. Learn the four skills you need to better understand yourself and communicate with clarity and confidence.
HELPS YOU DITCH THE “SAVIOR” SYNDROME
Let go of the belief that you are a super-hero who must swoop in and save the day. See yourself as a compassionate person who can help, give, and serve best within the context of your limits.
EMPOWERS YOU TO SET BOUNDARIES
Healthy Self 101 teaches you what boundaries are and what they are not. Use powerful visual tools to hold yourself and others accountable.
TEACHES YOU HOW TO LISTEN TO YOURSELF
Learn the keys to slowing down and getting clear about what you think, how you feel, and what you want before you engage with other people.
Module 1
The Codependent Relationship
Codependency is a buzz word in our culture…but do you REALLY know what is? It’s a lot more nuisance to codependent behaviors than on might think.
Here, you’ll get a thorough look at the codependent relationship—the good, the bad, and the ugly. There are many features to the behaviors that look good but create a lot of toxicity.
Truth is that if you are struggling with self-care, you are most likely struggling with entanglement.
Even if you’ve never consider yourself as someone who loses yourself in someone else, you’ll have an opportunity “rule out” codependent behaviors by getting honest with yourself and get empowered to start your journey of growing, stretching and healing.
Highlights:
- Discover what codependent behaviors look like and if they are rearing their ugly head in your relationships
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Use my special quiz results to increase your self awareness
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Uncover behaviors that promote lack of self-care and use my reflection guide to break the cycle
Module 2
Ways to Think About Self & Self in Relationships
No matter how close you are to someone, there is always a distinctive difference between you and them.
Always.
Here, you will figure out whether or not you are giving yourself enough room to be who you really are with others—in ways that promote health instead of isolation or estrangement.
Highlights:
- Learn about the three types of relationships and increase your ability to spot potential problems
- Use my Comparison Guide to reflect about your own relationships and decide which ones need an overhaul
- Use the kindness Continuum to learn how to figure out when to say “yes” and when to say “no” and do it without feeling guilty
Module 3
My Path: Goals & Skills
Now that you understand the psychology behind healthy relationships, you can begin the pathway to the healthy self!
Here, you will be introduced to a very specific roadmap to the development of the healthy self—a roadmap that will provide you with signs of guidance and strength for the rest of your life.
Highlights:
- Get familiar with the four goals that will move you towards a healthier you
Understand the four basic skills that you will develop and use for a lifetime Discover how to manage and process your feelings as you change and grow Learn the first skill of Facing Illusions and answer the best set of questions that help you see yourself, the other person, and the situation.
Module 4
The Art of Detaching
Now that you understand the psychology behind healthy relationships, you can begin the pathway to the healthy self!
Here, you will be introduced to a very specific roadmap to the development of the healthy self—a roadmap that will provide you with signs of guidance and strength for the rest of your life.
Highlights:
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Learn the truth about detaching so that you can do it with clean hands and a pure heart.
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Discover how the role you played in your family impacts the way you react and respond to others
Unlock four strategies to help you get some emotional distance from a person and/or situation
Module 5
Setting Healthy Boundaries
Boundaries and communication are the building blocks of any healthy relationship. Learning how to set healthy boundaries is a powerful tool to helping you respect and honor yourself and other people at the same time.
Here, you will take responsibility for figuring out what you want to experience in relationships and pursue it with intention. In addition, you will learn what to do if someone chooses not to respect your boundaries.
Highlights:
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Learn what boundaries are and what they are not
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Implement the line-down-the-page technique that provides a prowler full tool to help you hold yourself and others accountable
Use the My Boundaries & Me Skill Builder to select some initial boundaries and a plan to start implementing them.
Module 6
Developing My Spirituality
This course ends with an intentional look at our spiritual selves. Each person connects to spirituality in different ways.
Here, we help you determine how you best connect and determine the best practices to keep you feeling grounded, mindful, and connected from the inside out.
Highlights:
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Embrace yourself as a multi-dimensional being of mind, body, and spirit
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Learn how to nurture your spiritual self instead of ignoring it
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Develop your personalized Spiritual Maintenance Plan to maintain health in the deepest parts of your being
THE HEALTHY SELF CHALLENGE
Let’s say this upfront.
Healthy Self 101 is the only program of its kind that not only shows you exactly how to set limits in your relationship, but also teaches you how to recognize your own toxic behavior patterns and replace them with healthier ones in ways that build empathy, strength and confidence.
Our community is highly-curated and filled with helpful, motivated, and super-supportive members who are pursing better balance between care for self and others. When you join, you will be part of this special group.Now here’s the kicker.
By the end of these 21 days, you’ll have received access to some one-on-one coaching and the first two modules.
Meaning, you’ll have had the opportunity to identify the behaviors you need to adjust and the relationships that need an overhaul BEFORE making a final commitment.
If you don’t feel totally clear and confident about your ability to start moving things in a more positive direction, simply reach out show us you’ve put in the work, and we’ll refund your investment. Visit rosajoneslpc.com/refundpolicy for full details.
Here’s what you’re getting when you enroll today:
Healthy Self 101: A Guilt Free Guide to Setting Limits in Relationships - ($597 Value)
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Bonus 1- 6 Weekly LIVE Group Coaching Sessions w/ Rosa Jones (A $349 Value)
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Bonus 2- Private, Members Only Facebook Group with 8 week of Community + Accountability- (A $297 Value)
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Bonus 3- One Individual Coaching Session with a Life Coach (A $100 Value)
When you add it all up, that’s a total real-world value of $1,342
But when you enroll today, you’ll get access to everything for just:
Pay Monthly
6 Monthly Payments of
$58.16
OR
Pay Upfront
1 Single Payment
of
$397
Frequently Asked Questions
What people asked before signing up for Healthy Self 101:
If you are worn out, frustrated, and distracted by problem relationships and situations, MAKING time for this may be the very thing that allows you to take control of your life and get your peace back. Remember--problems don't just fix themselves. It's okay for you to carve out some time to get untangled and figure out how to stay that way. Just think--once you start setting limits--maybe you won't be so busy?!?!
This is a very rational fear. While every person and situation is different, human behavior patterns are VERY predictable. This course will provide you with a roadmap that helps you manage and control the one person you actually have control over--YOU. If the other person or situation never changes, better balance and peace of mind are ALWAYS an option for YOU. We will show you how to get there regardless of your situation. The other unique feature of this course is the interaction you will have with other students via Live Weekly Group Coaching and the Private Facebook Group. Remember, you also have a one-time session with a Life Coach and can access the coach for additional sessions at a very affordable rate, if needed. We've got you covered.
Healthy Self 101 is the only program of its kind that not only shows you exactly how to set limits in your relationship, but also teaches you how to recognize your own toxic behavior patterns and replace them with healthier ones in ways that build empathy, strength and confidence.
I meet with people individually to implement similar strategies on a weekly basis. In a traditional setting, a person would pay $1,342.00 to receive this level of skill building, education, and support over 6-12 weeks.
Very expensive. But highly valuable.
Healthy Self 101 offers you insider tricks, tips and strategies as a fragment of the cost. Remember, $349 is an INTRODUCTORY offer for this course. The course will be available in the future, but the cost will only gradually increase with each course launch.
NOW is the time to SAVE & access this amazing material!
Remember--you can always opt for the payment plan of 6 monthly payments of $58.16 to lower your cost of entry point.
$349 is a lot less expensive than paying $497 during the next launch OR paying up to $100 a week to see a professional counselor for 3- 6 months!
You will have access to Modules 1 & 2 at the time of purchase. The content for Modules 3-6 are "dripped" meaning, they will be automatically unlocked for you every Wednesday, 8:00 am. This will give you an entire week to complete your video sessions and reflection guides. Each module will take 45-60 minutes to complete on whatever days/times work best for your schedule.
Your learning will be greatly enhanced by participating in the Weekly Group Coaching Session, Private Facebook Group, and/or scheduling your Life Coaching Session.
Our community is highly-curated and filled with helpful, motivated, and super-supportive members who are pursing better balance between care for self and others. When you join, you will be part of this special group.
By the end of these 21 days, you’ll have received access to some one-on-one coaching and the first two modules.
Meaning, you’ll have had the opportunity to identify the behaviors you need to adjust and the relationships that need an overhaul BEFORE making a final commitment.
If you don’t feel totally clear and confident about your ability to start moving things in a more positive direction, simply reach out show us you’ve put in the work, and we’ll refund your investment. Visit www.rosajoneslpc.com/refundpolicy for full details.
When you sign up for this course, you will receive:
-6 weeks of Video lessons with accompanying PDF Reflection Guide (Value $597)
-Bonus #1: 6 Weekly Live Group Coaching Sessions w/ Rosa Jones (Value $349)
-Bonus #2: Private, Members Only Facebook Group with 8 weeks of Community + Accountability (Value $297)
-Bonus #3: One Individual Coaching Session with a Life Coach (Value $99)
Here’s what you’re getting when you enroll today:
Healthy Self 101: A Guilt Free Guide to Setting Limits in Relationships - ($597 Value)
-
Bonus 1- 6 Weekly LIVE Group Coaching Sessions w/ Rosa Jones (A $349 Value)
-
Bonus 2- Private, Members Only Facebook Group with 8 week of Community + Accountability- (A $297 Value)
-
Bonus 3- One Individual Coaching Session with a Life Coach (A $100 Value)
When you add it all up, that’s a total real-world value of $1,342
But when you enroll today, you’ll get access to everything for just:
Pay Monthly
6 Monthly Payments of
$58.16
OR
Pay Upfront
1 Single Payment
of
$397
Healthy Self 101 is PERFECT for you if…
1. You are full of visions and dreams; you KNOW that your life has purpose; and you don’t want anything standing in your way. There is no question that you are called to lead and/or make a difference in the world. You commitment to that belief is so strong, you are not willing to let ANYTHING stand in your way. You know that learning how to set limits in relationships is essential to your ability to reach your goals.
2. You are not sure exactly how to define your problem, so you’ve considered seeing a counselor or life coach. Relationships problems and difficult situations can cause great deal of tension and stress. You’ve tried several things on your own, but nothing is getting you lasting results. You want some proven strategies to move towards resolve.
3. You know you need to do the work, but you’re not sure you can add “something else” to your plate. Let’s face it…you’re ALWAYS busy. Truth is, you make time for what’s important to you. Learning how to set limits in relationships will actually help you to feel less obligated to be doing things that unnecessarily suck up all of your time and energy. This is not just a want for you—it’s a need and a great way to invest in yourself and your relationships.
4. You are willing to own your part of the problem and do your own work. You are self-aware and know that there are things that you could be doing differently. You are humble enough to seek truth about yourself—not just point the blame at others. Healthy Self 101 will help you get the clarity you need about YOU so that you can do a better job managing and controlling the ONE person you are responsible for AND have control over —YOU.
5. You’ve all ready tried to set some boundaries but the results have not been sustainable. You have a basic understanding of boundaries and you are hopeful about getting some additional skills and tools to help you get unstuck when what you are doing is not working.
6. You feel kind of “stuck” and unable to stay committed to taking care of yourself. Your self-care can sometimes be a bit of a roller-coaster—up and down. If you’ve ever been side-tracked and let down before, you’re currently feeling a wave of renewed optimism, knowing htat by this time tomorrow, you can be plugging yourself into an easy-to-follow yet super effective methodology for catalyzing your personal growth.
7. You sometimes end up feeling guilty for setting limits because it feels selfish. You are intrigued by the idea that there are ways to say “no” without experiencing guilt and/or shame. You are eager to start a journey that helps you better understand the way you are wired.
8. You have felt alone, but there is a growing sense of hope that you are not the only one struggling with setting limits. The idea of being able to talk with a life coach one-on-one; receive expert level weekly coaching in a group setting; and having access to videos and PDFs for individual study will provide you with challenge and growth opportunities within the context of a private and supportive community. You are not alone.
9. You feel confident grabbing access details knowing you have 21 days to test it out: It’s simple. Either you do the work and experience more growth in 21 days than you have in many years…or you shoot me and my team a quick message asking us to hit the undo on the whole “let’s help you become a healthier you” journey.
If you caught yourself nodding your head “yes” to at least 7 of the above, I can’t wait to meet you inside Healthy Self 101: A Guilt-Free Guide To Setting Limits in Relationships!
Here’s what you’re getting when you enroll today:
Healthy Self 101: A Guilt Free Guide to Setting Limits in Relationships - ($597 Value)
-
Bonus 1- 6 Weekly LIVE Group Coaching Sessions w/ Rosa Jones (A $349 Value)
-
Bonus 2- Private, Members Only Facebook Group with 8 week of Community + Accountability- (A $297 Value)
-
Bonus 3- One Individual Coaching Session with a Life Coach (A $100 Value)
Payment Monthly
6 Monthly Payments of
$58.16
OR
Payment Upfront
1 Single Payment
of
$397
